Love doesn’t conquer all.

I left my ex significant other because he drank. I didn’t have any other reasons. I don’t drink and it’s just not my life style, I didn’t want to marry him because of that. He did try to quit, but addictions are hard to beat, he would relapse every time. He was high functioning alcoholic so he wasn’t having troubles at work or anything but addiction is hard to handle. I didn’t want to deal with it anymore. It’s probably not wise to even start relationships with unsuitable partners but we all make mistakes. I honestly didn’t know much about it because we aren’t drinkers in my family so I was clueless what was happening. Plus addiction escalates. What was ok in the beginning wasn’t ok later

If I stayed I’d never meet my husband and never had a happy marriage I have. I’d be still with an addict because supposedly people have to stay for love. Nope I moved on and glad I did. It’s not all black and white.

OP described his life style and its just hard to handle. He hasn’t left the house since March. It’s her house. They aren’t even married. She doesn’t need to put up with this. But it doesn’t mean she can’t feel love for him. Love is complex. Some people say it never goes away, just changes the form. Heck we might feel the kind of love we feel for family and friends. Might not even be romantic