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ladymacabethadmunsen said:
What was so bad about that respond ?

I thingk it`s smart


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My girlfriend works with two autistic brothers. She has told me about how the older one tends to have a habit of telling gruesome stories and talk about killing other children at school. She has given him feedback in order to help him gain some ability to censor himself. The other day he told her about how some other kid (supposedly 'normal') at school said to him, "your stories ruin everything!"

She thought that was very insensitive of the child. My response to her was, "well, it is true, though," because I remembered her telling me about how inappropriate he had been with her. She still got a bit mad at me for saying that. I could have phrased it better.

Perhaps diabetes is genetic, perhaps you did not have control over acquiring it. It is unfortunate. If someone was paralyzed from playing a sport that he really liked, would you go up to him as he sat in his wheel chair and say, "f*** you for paralyzing yourself. What a stupid choice you made. Now you can see the error of your ways." Of course you wouldn't. Well, I hope you wouldn't.

So to make a bashing response to someone who is seeking support is not insensitive, it just serves to reinforce negativity towards those we perceive (usually incorrectly) as 'weak'.

ladymacbeth is fortunate, though, because her poorly written response, rife with spelling and syntax errors, causes me to not take her very seriously in the first place.