I guess as far as ''support'' I could try a therapist although that too would stress Papa bear out (and it would stress me out too.....) But maybe I might find a therapist who listens, that would be nice

I think he might be high functioning Aspergers, he was labelled ''introverted'' when he was at school and I don't think his school was into labels.. unlike that place I went to. He isn't interested in talking to people, even on line, but his social skills are fine except in the evenings. I did not notice how ''quiet'' he was for a long time, (at least a few years) I was always labelled as ''quiet'' but now I'm not so much But I'd rather he said nothing than what the rest of the ''family'' say - judgments, talking about paint drying, scary ugly topics