Thank you for the information you provided. I am looking for how to support her. Maybe just an ear so I have friends. She has her own group and I get the feeling I would not be welcomed due to the hardships they have endured. Some of the community (namely ones she hangs with) are quite mean. Yes during her selfloathing she made alot of mistakes and no I will not excuse the behavior but do understand. We have talked and I am in therapy. I just am trying to understand and most of what she views as cruel bullying is things I have dealt with my whole life. I understand it is not the same but I find ignoring the ignorant and holding your head high is best. I just want someone to talk to who understands what we are going through. I have a gay friend who does drag but in no way does he know how to help me. He recommended getting involved in the community but as I stated those girls are mean.