Dear Fuzzybear,

That sounds like a really good technique. I will try it.

Two techniques that help me a lot with recurring bad memories are these. If the experience is not too intense, I just say this mantra over and over again: "Could have been worse, but wasn't worse, thank goodness." This sort of gently helps me switch from . . . "my past could have been better but wasn't better" mode which engenders in me anger and sadness . . . to the mode . . . "could have been worse, but wasn't worse, thank goodness" which engenders happier feelings in me and peace.

If a recurring memory is really intense and the first technique doesn't help, I try this one: I just repeat over and over in my head the following words: "I love you Yaowen." This has a powerful effect on me and brings calm back into my life.

These techniques help me a lot. I am glad you found a technique that helps you! I plan to try it out on myself next time I have recurring bad memories. Thank you so very much for sharing it with all of us here. Anything that helps is most welcome!

Sincerely yours, Yao Wen