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Old Jan 12, 2021, 03:14 PM
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Originally Posted by divine1966 View Post
I think when you take is slow, it really helps to figure things out. For example a man who isn’t seriously inclined would never wait for months before getting intimate, the one who is really into you on a deep level and looking for depth will wait. But if you jump into it right away you don’t even know if he is serious. Don’t know him on a deep level but you already got hooked. Bottom line you sometimes have to act against your nature. If your nature is to get physically close real quick then you force yourself not to. If you normally go for one type of men, force yourself to go for a different kind. We all gravitate towards familiar but to break the pattern you have to stop yourself and stir yourself opposite direction and you might be surprised what you’ll find.
Your suggestions remind me of Opposite George day in Seinfeld, if you have ever watched that show? Opposite George is where George decides that he will do everything opposite of his natural inclinations. It's a funny episode.

I agree about not sleeping with someone right away. I made that mistake with my husband. We slept together on like the fifth or sixth date.
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