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Old Jan 12, 2021, 08:12 PM
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Originally Posted by Yaowen View Post
Dear Fuzzybear,

That sounds like a really good technique. I will try it.

Two techniques that help me a lot with recurring bad memories are these. If the experience is not too intense, I just say this mantra over and over again: "Could have been worse, but wasn't worse, thank goodness." This sort of gently helps me switch from . . . "my past could have been better but wasn't better" mode which engenders in me anger and sadness . . . to the mode . . . "could have been worse, but wasn't worse, thank goodness" which engenders happier feelings in me and peace.

If a recurring memory is really intense and the first technique doesn't help, I try this one: I just repeat over and over in my head the following words: "I love you Yaowen." This has a powerful effect on me and brings calm back into my life.

These techniques help me a lot. I am glad you found a technique that helps you! I plan to try it out on myself next time I have recurring bad memories. Thank you so very much for sharing it with all of us here. Anything that helps is most welcome!

Sincerely yours, Yao Wen
Also some great ideas here, thanks Yaowen

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