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Old Jan 13, 2021, 06:44 AM
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Originally Posted by divine1966 View Post
You needed to stress out that marriage isn’t working for you. Nothing even to do with forgiveness. Nothing to forgive. If it’s about blame and him ruining it, it opens conversations on forgiveness and who to blame and he is a victim so you two keep rehashing it. “Marriage is unsatisfactory for me, it’s not working, sorry, don’t want to be married”. End of story.
I told him that my feelings have changed, that I no longer can view him the same way, and that he cannot make me happy.

Yet, he still argues that I cannot forgive, even when I say these things to him. So, yes, he needs to play the victim.

I give up entirely. He can win the argument and be the victim.

I am worn down and worn out. He has beaten me down and I just give up on everything. I don't even care anymore. I just want this to end.
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