Miss C's repeats are giving me therapy flashbacks--same message over and over again...LOL

Sunrise,
This is a tough concept for me to grasp at this point too. One minute you are told to open up, let people know you have feelings... bah...bah..bah..Then you also get the Teflon speech. I struggle with what face to show when. Maybe your T see that you have worked hard to open yourself up to others, share your feelings, and express yourself. However, you are still leaving yourself vulnerable to toxic people in your world like your husband. He has not demonstrated that he deserves to affect you deeply and you simply have to draw the line and keep him out.

I think you can be receptive to things he says but not vulnerable to them. "I hear that you are frustrated/upset/lonely. I'm sorry you are feeling that way I hope you can fix it, but your feelings are no longer my responsibility to fix."

Maybe he is suggesting that you construct some... semi-permeable barriers. Some people can flow freely into your inner world as you want or need them too (osmosis), others require an invitation (active transport) and some are simply not permitted to pass beyond cordial conversation .