Hello! I'm new to this, so bear with me, please.

First of all, let me say that I don't think you should stay with your husband only because your grown children want you to. They are adults, and this is your life~not theirs. You deserve just as much of a chance at happiness as they do. My parents divorced when I was in my early teens, and it was not only best for my Mom, but best for us.

Your husband, to be blunt, sounds like a fairly selfish person. He likes things the way they are, and seems to furthermore expect you to like them that way . I say this as evidenced by the phone call to your "T", implying that there is something wrong with you that needs to be fixed. Yes, there sure is. You seem to be in a empty marriage with an emotionally absent husband, who wants to do nothing but sit and watch the scenery, while you want to go out and experience life. I do agree with some that you should at least give it your best shot. But I wouldn't feel the least bit guilty if he won't give and inch and try to meet some of your needs. Marriage is about compromise, neither the husband nor the wife should have it all their way. I hope things get better for you. I watched my Mom go through the end of a marriage that had pretty much broken down and I know what a sad, painful thing it is. Take good care of you, Hugggs, Enigma