Honestly as I got older I am very selective who I associate with and how often. There is only that much time and energy. I can only listen to people so much especially if they aren’t interested in bettering themselves or want to rehash same things or do small talk. I’ll listen but I have a life to live.

My tolerance for listening to whining in my spare time is getting quite low too. Having said that, if she is a good company and in general a decent person, I’d keep it going but just lessen the amount of contact. It’s great to be nice but no need to be “too nice”.

Don’t answer after 10pm. Just don’t. Let it go to voice mail or she can send a brief text if it is an emergency. Or suggest to talk on a different day. Keep it going but not daily!. Daily quick texts exchange is fine. But not frequent phone conversations.

Some people think if you are retired, you have nothing to do. Please. my best friend just retired, sure she is more available but not like all of a sudden she has all this time or she sits on her butt! People have hobbies and interests and chores! And simply people want to have some space