If you are fleeing an abusive relationship and divorcing, the time for getting your feelings validated has passed. You are harming yourself by continuing this cat/mouse game with him. You couldn’t get validation when you were together and trying. Of course, he won’t validate you now.

When you file for divorce the lawyers send letters with deadline dates where he has to produce financial documents and so do you. Then a date is set for the divorce to be finalized. He will have to figure out what to do to have A vehicle to get to work. If the worst case is you get tagged a couple thousand to owe, but are free from your abusive marriage, think of that as the cost of your freedom and sanity.