Some people are just very needy. Being so needy makes them self absorbed. They just can’t help it but make everything about themselves. They might not even realize that they do it. They might lack awareness. Reciprocal relationships are nearly impossible with people like this. They lack give and take reciprocity. Having said that, it doesn’t mean they can’t learn boundaries or that relationship cannot sustain itself in some limited fashion.

Situations like daily calls or late calls could be remedied by not answering the phone. It’s a common courtesy to not call late so she knows it’s not appropriate. If you don’t answer, she’ll stop calling late because it will serve no purpose. As about neighbor, surely pandemics is a valid reason to keep the distance