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Originally Posted by BethRags
I have a dear friend with whom I've been friends for 52 years. That said, I have to set boundaries with her. She's extremely needy. I have repeatedly suggested that she seek therapy - and an antidepressant. She's always "trying" to do both, but "never can find the time." Although she knows I go to bed early (about 9 p.m.) she repeatedly calls me around 8 - 9 at night. Uh-uh. I do not answer, and I will not answer. Never. Period. I don't make excuses. I just plain do not pick up the phone after a certain time. To call you, Rose, at 10-something at night? You have got to be kidding!!! Just no.
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Thanks, Beth. The time before going to bed is when you want to wind down and not have to cater to neediness. I tell everyone that I'm a night-owl, which may be part of the problem. She may have taken that to mean I'm available late in the eve. I have given her mixed signals. Now I see you can't do that with everyone. I'ld hesitate to telephone anyone after 8:30 p.m. 10:15 p.m. is not in any gray zone. It clearly is later than socially appropriate.