He’s been this way the entire time you’ve been involved with him as lovers and then as friends. That’s who he is. When people show you who they are, believe them. He is rude, selfish and disrespectful and he doesn’t appear to be changing even a tiny bit.

Cleaning his house? If he is unemployed, he has time to clean his own house. He can cook his own meals. He disrespects you with his words and actions. Why do you want friends like this?