Quote:
Originally Posted by Have Hope
This was posted in an ad on my Facebook feed this morning. It feels applicable:
“Ever find yourself clinging to a one-sided relationship with an emotionally unavailable partner?
A good question to ask when we notice this is:
“What part of me is it that wants this so badly?”
Sometimes it’s our most wounded self... or our “child-self” that takes over and gets caught in the pain and fear of not being chosen.… The fear of being abandoned.
Our emotions are powerful. And to become more Conscious and self-loving... It’s our job to learn how to listen to our emotions and act from a place of self-worth.
(Rather than react out of discomfort.)
We often simply mask our discomfort to avoid feeling abandoned, unloved, or unworthy.
… Without really going to the root cause.
We’re temporarily soothing ourselves with a chase… Or giving ourselves away in dead-end relationships.
… But we’re not actually getting what we want or what we deserve from a relationship.
People don’t necessarily want to hurt us, but the reality is...
Unless they’ve done their inner-work and are aware enough to act Consciously, their actions may be entirely self-serving...
Which leaves you feeling unsupported.
It’s up to you to be your own wise, nurturing and loving inner-parent.
Remind yourself that it’s safe to be loved...
That healthy love doesn’t have to be boring...
Learn to see the signs of when you might be confusing chaos with chemistry.
You are here to be loved and cherished.
You have the capacity to step into your worth. And stretch yourself to show up powerfully in all of your relationships.
It’s time.”
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GymGirl—^This touches on many underlying things about your relationship struggles that you put yourself into. How was your young childhood? Did you have a safe, loving environment with your parents? I wonder if all people who chase unrequited love have the young childhood trauma in common.