I have been in eight abusive relationships. EIGHT. Then I married an abuser. So I have an unhealthy pattern myself to work through with regards to men. Hence, why I understand your predicament and am not pointing fingers in any way. I empathize and sympathize.

But the bottom line is: this guy is toxic and unhealthy for you. At some point, you will need to break your own unhealthy patterns in relationships. For me, it's taken years to get to a point of really wanting to resolve this for myself, because I have hurt myself SO MUCH through my pattern of abusive relationships. SO MUCH that I now am determined to break free.

You have to get to this point yourself in your own journey... but we only get there when we're truly ready to break patterns of behavior. And I'm afraid you're going to continue to hurt yourself and to put yourself in harm's way, which just only prolongs your misery.

It's up to YOU to decide whether you wish to be happy or not in life. Only then, will you take steps necessary to avoid toxic people and relationships in order to have a healthy, happy and fulfilling life. We are responsible for our choices, our actions AND for the relationships we CHOOSE to become involved in.

I am glad you have a therapist. Keep working on this in therapy. Hugs to you.