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Why do I even go to therapy if T is going to tell me stuff like that? How can that be therapeutic? I don't want to go behind walls again. I am very confused. Has he given up on me?

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Walls are different than teflon... walls you can't see thru and they're big. ya can't get in or out past them. teflon is a coating over something small so things don't stick but you still get things cooked (needs met). it does sound confusing at first, sunny, but perhaps it is just the translation that we can play with. I agree, you must set and keep clear boundaries. you must say what is yours to say. but don't let your h's insults "stick " to you, eating you up or causing you lasting pain. let them slide right off.... easier said than done, i know all too well. but perhaps that is where your t is directing you? hope you're ok!!