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Default Jan 16, 2021 at 07:15 PM
 
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Originally Posted by Gymgirl71 View Post
thx I just get confused and second guess myself. I sent too many texts etc but it was because he flaked out then rationalizes it and turns the tables. Even went as far as to say he got opinions from friends. His friends hearing one side of the story no less. There are 3 sides. And his older brother and his other good friend have defended me in front of him also. My gut feeling just tells me I’m not “bugn” like he says. It’s always I’m bugn or chill out or something. He’s got a real street mentality I hate to say it.
Perhaps it would help if you read about unhealthy vs healthy relationship dynamics and behavior so that you distinctly know the difference. Or perhaps read about toxic behaviors. Then you can identify his behaviors more easily as being toxic. He sounds like he is gaslighting you by turning the tables around on you, which is actually an abuse tactic.

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