It must be another friend you talked about that complains about her mother alot even though her mother has been gone 10 years that I was thinking about. It could very well be that this friend who had a sweet mother was spoiled and had a lot done "for" her. So, she grew to expect that from others in relationships. When you shared about her visiting you and you making her tea and then ended up making her dinner, that's probably something she feels is ok because it's what her mother did for her. That is most likely why she felt that what you did for your SO was too much and remarked how it's nothing she would ever choose to do. Truth is, people tend to be what they know.

That is why I brought up those movies too. It was more about human nature then what happened in the 60's. Truth is it could be at any time because it's something human beings tend to practice. It's very much today as it was then. It is not just black and white, instead it's white and white and black and black and yellow and yellow etc. Truth is, one could change the color of all these individuals and still show the very same behaviors.

So what does that have to do with you and this aquaintance? Perhaps nothing more than to understand how this individual is only going to give you what she knows. This aquaintance is not going to be self aware enough to truly understand her short comings and how that affects others. Also, that this individual won't truly cry for you, but will most likely only be able to cry for herself.