It's wise to keep a distance because when it comes to this disease a person tends to be "there" or present for themselves. I found this particular article in what Affleck shared interesting because he shared how alcoholism is actually very common in Hollywood. Truth is, Hollywood has pretty much always been that way too, and what was common was to take measures to hide this reality and maintain "the image" that the general public would pay to see and think was "special".
Truth is, that even though his wife loved him, it got to be too hard for her to live with because SHE knows first hand what it's like to see him drunk and careless and utterly self absorbed in the disease. Truth is, they don't think of you, especially when they are consuming alcohol or drugs. They don't remember how they chose to say things or do things that hurt you or how they USED you at a time that you were struggling with something important to you.
Notice how Affleck is STILL talking about himself in this article? I, I, I and not yet seeing how his wife suffered? He is still grieving for himself and not for his wife.
Did you ever have someone hurt you and decide it was ok to ask you about this or that while consuming alcohol and not REALLY see YOU but what they needed themselves? How they chose to HURT you and say mean things and NEVER stop to think how their behavior HURT you? How they may talk about appologizing but you KNOW that they will NEVER appologize to you and really see how their behavior was wrong? No, they cannot see where you are but instead ONLY WHERE THEY ARE. That is why this disease has a lot of narcissistic behavior patterns.
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In the same interview, Affleck said that getting divorced from Garner was “the biggest regret of my life.”
The two, who share three children, announced their separation in 2015 before officially divorcing in 2018.
“I never thought I was going to get divorced,” Affleck told “Good Morning America” co-anchor Diane Sawyer last February. “I didn’t want to get divorced, I didn’t want to be a divorced person. I really didn’t want to be a split family with my children. It upset me because it meant I wasn’t who I thought I was, and that was so painful and so disappointing.”
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Constantly in the "I" still and mourning for "self". It's part of the recovery and something I had to learn to understand. A long time ago I sat and watched a movie with Andy Garcia and Meg Ryan called "When a man loves a woman" and it's still hard for me to watch that movie without crying because of how much I can relate to the husband and what he went through while the wife got sober.