I think issues that stem that deep usually can't be "fixed" just by your own will power. And if it can, it takes much longer. I think that therapy is probably the best way to deal with some of those issues. It gives you an outsiders perspective. You can trust that theyre not just telling you things because they think you want to hear them.

I know that up until very recently I have had problems with anything past missionary. Everything else just reminded me of my ex who used to force me to do them. I left him almost 3 years ago and still have trouble having sex in general. Im in therapy now and think it has helped me be much more open to ideas about sex. Its taught me that sex isn't dirty (isn't supposed to be at least).

Even online forums like this can help you. There is a sexuality forum on here that can help you work out some of these issues. I think if you learn to be more comfortable with your body then the sex thing will fall into place. I think it probably goes a little deeper than just sex, it probably stems to deeper body issues. It takes some time to get over but the people here, and hopefully having a support system in your life, will help you a lot.

The fact that you came here to ask that shows a lot that youre past the biggest hump. Learning that its a problem is a great step. A lot of people never work up the courage to ask for help. So, if you ask me, I think youre already on your way