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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
Thanks for clarifying. I was wondering, if your h knew him, why he didn’t say he felt bad he has passed (aside from not giving you condolences). You are really reaching to keep wanting loving behavior and validation from a man who didn’t give you that while you were together. You are banging your head in the wall. I doubt my h would give me condolences on any ex of mine who passed, even at the best of relationship times because he’d be jealous to even hear about them.
When divorcing, do people typically keep daily contact and keep a close emotional relationship, and seeking validation? I see how you are all over the place emotionally, back and forth on this. (Someone even more shaky may be doing this dance for 25 years  )
I understand it is very emotional for you and you have plenty of mixed feelings about your ex’s passing. I’m sorry it happened.  |
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TishaBuv,
He did eventually offer his condolences, but only AFTER I got fed up and called him a monster.
Oh, I am well aware of the dance I am doing right now. Perhaps it's something I just need to experience and go through myself in order to truly learn.
At least I am leaving an abusive marriage early on and before it gets far worse. The writing is on the wall, and I am proud of myself for leaving him, despite all his begging and pleading and tears. I should actually be celebrating my strength right now, rather than feel down on myself for trying to talk reasonably with someone who is unreasonable.
I know that it's futile, and that is becoming more and more clear to me.
And thanks so much regarding my ex fiance. SO sad and SO tragic.