@TishaBuv,

He did eventually offer his condolences, but only AFTER I got fed up and called him a monster.

Oh, I am well aware of the dance I am doing right now. Perhaps it's something I just need to experience and go through myself in order to truly learn.

At least I am leaving an abusive marriage early on and before it gets far worse. The writing is on the wall, and I am proud of myself for leaving him, despite all his begging and pleading and tears. I should actually be celebrating my strength right now, rather than feel down on myself for trying to talk reasonably with someone who is unreasonable.

I know that it's futile, and that is becoming more and more clear to me.

And thanks so much regarding my ex fiance. SO sad and SO tragic.