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Old Jan 18, 2021, 09:09 AM
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Originally Posted by divine1966 View Post
I wonder if this death devastated you so much because of current divorce and maybe it triggers something else? Does it mask the pain over divorce? Sometimes we subconsciously shift pain on to something else
This. Yes, perhaps so. My emotions are haywire right now about my divorce AND my ex's death.

I also have been in my ex's shoes several times in my life. Perhaps I identify with the hopelessness he must have felt. I empathize a lot with him over how awful he must have felt at the time.

Perhaps it's simply just being empathetic to his plight. Or perhaps it's something more.

I am no longer seeing a therapist due to costs, but I have my abuse advocate who functions similar to a therapist. She's supporting me through my divorce right now. I will speak with her on Wed this week again.
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