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Old Jan 18, 2021, 09:46 AM
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Originally Posted by divine1966 View Post
Of course being emphatic about what happened to him is normal regardless how he treated you. He died in young age.

I am just saying that expecting your husband, and especially your soon to be husband, and your parents feel much about it or offering much condolences or much comfort is not very realistic
I expected my parents at the very least to be supportive - why wouldn't I? We're very close - sure, they may be more defensive about him on my behalf, but I didn't anticipate them completely bashing him as much as they did. I get it, but the poor guy killed himself. I think it deserves RESPECT at the very least.

And my husband? I expected some amount of sympathy. Yet he made it all about himself, as usual.

I have standards in behavior - they're high, but a death and suicide? I expect ppl in the face of loss and death to provide sympathy. I don't feel this is unrealistic.
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Last edited by Have Hope; Jan 18, 2021 at 10:05 AM.
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