Birthdays are hard aren’t they. They could be triggering. Moving towards forgiveness is wise. Sometimes forgiveness isn’t possible. I try radical acceptance. Cant change what happened. It is what it is kind of thing. Cant always forgive but don’t have to agonize as it cannot be changed.

PS thank you for kind words. My stepdaughters are adults now, they both endured a lot along with their dad, my husband. Even after her death, bad things linger. Right now we are finding out she used OUR address two hours away from where she lived or was homeless at to apply for things and stuff. Long story. Still I am respectful as she is their mother. When they vent, I listen but I told them I personally can’t speak poorly of her to them. Not my place. They get it.

I send you hugs and support