The problem I have with it, is that it blames the person with the illness. Now, some of the facts are true, but almost every illness we know has behavioral factors associated with it. Cancer, diabetes, mental illness, heart disease, sexually transmitted diseases, etc etc etc. All have a behavior component to them.

Blaming someone for their illness or not taking their meds or engaging in the behavior that may have caused the illness does nothing but hurt and from all the scientific evidence DOES NOT MOTIVATE CHANGE.

What motivates health behavior changes is support and education about the illness and ways to improve it. For example, many times cardiac patients have dietary support, physical activity support and walking clubs in the hospital, support from physical therapist, and education about cardiac problems. We don't blame them for having had bypass surgery....we try to motivate them through positive support.

You have alot to deal with and learn. I suggest looking into support groups that can help as you make the necessary changes you need to.