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Originally Posted by divine1966
Yeah well it’s not a gift.
Gift would be he bought something he could afford and paid whatever it costs (if he could only afford 25 bucks that’s what he had to buy and it would be an honest memorable gift) and he gave it to you.
He makes zero sense convincing you to buy something for yourself even if he paid for some of it. In the very worst case scenario he borrowed money from someone to buy you stuff but not borrow from you to buy for you. Especially something very expensive and something he can’t afford to buy.
His “gift” giving makes no sense. These aren’t gifts. Even buying you flowers is stupid if he asks you to cover him every month. I’ve met people in variety of financial situations but I’ve never heard anyone doing anything of the sorts. He has no shame
You are way too nice. When is he moving stuff out
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I know I am too nice.
You're right - he has NO shame. And you're correct - he makes no sense. He likes to live life large, as though he is still extremely wealthy. He does NOT live in reality. And he's not living in reality now with the status of our relationship.
The earrings were a gift for myself that I bought. He did not buy them. I never would have acquired a new credit card for myself to pay off an $1,100 pair of earrings, had he not convinced me, and had he not offered to split the cost. What a joke.
But I do love the earrings, and if I'm getting rid of all other diamond jewelry, it's nice to have this one piece of fine jewelry.
Thankfully, I can return to being frugal and smart with my finances and money. I aim to save for retirement - that's my main financial goal right now.
Well, that and I must move closer to work so that when I commute to the office eventually, it's an easy commute. I will save the money to move over the next several months, while putting away money in a 401K at work too. I also do not need a 2-bedroom apartment anymore. It's a waste of money.
He moved a whole bunch of his stuff out last night. There's still the entire attic space for him to clear out - that will take many separate trips.