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Old Jan 22, 2021, 06:58 AM
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Originally Posted by cookiepie234 View Post
I think I will fade out slowly :/ and because she's already constantly taken a while to reply to me, and we went a month without speaking, then another couple of weeks without speaking, I guess it isn't really ghosting. It's definitely built up to this and I can see how unbothered she is. Even when she apologised it was one of those "i'm sorry you feel that way, but..." kind of apologies
Whenever the words "I'm sorry you feel that way" are said, the person is not taking ownership of their actions, and they're not truly apologizing. True apologies start with the words, "I'm sorry I hurt you".. or "I'm sorry for doing that. I will not do that again in the future".

And whenever those words are followed by the word, "but", it means they're excusing their actions.

I think you're doing the right thing. You will feel far better without this person weighing you down.
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