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Default Jan 24, 2021 at 02:13 PM
 
My last therapist suddenly terminated me, too, almost 6 years ago. She was a trauma specialist with a Ph.D., too. Fortunately I had an inperson support group and vented a lot here on PC and did NOT need to go back to another therapy. I did interview some other therapists and talked with some counselors for several sessions each but did not get back into anything very serious.

I do NOT trust any of them any more. I had been in therapy on and off for over 50 years, 20 years almost continuously after my late husband was diagnosed with a terminal disease. I had "believed" in therapy -- bad on me, but the profession does not do anything that I know of to stop that kind of thing. Except, maybe now, the sudden terminations. But for years and years and years they had encouraged people to "do the work" and stick with it. Nothing but sudden terminations now? And equating therapy to hairdressing?

Venting on this forum helped me a lot to process some of the underlying stuff and I now think I understand it, mostly -- but that still doesn't/hasn't helped me a lot to be a part of the world and get along with other people -- to be a real person so to speak. I'm still working on it, very late in my life, and don't know how much, if any, good can come from it, but what else to do? And I can probably recognize people that are potentially damaging to me now, like several therapists I have seen in the past. But I spent a horrlbly long time, and money, trying to get to this point with a lot of wrong turns and damages to me and other people along the way.

One positive, in a way, but it had it's horrible effects, too -- the termination triggered devastating abandonment and rejection feelings/experiences from my early life that I had numbed out or dissociated so deep I didn't remember them consciously. Despite the years and years of previous therapy.

When my therapist terminated me, she said that it was because she didn't "have the emotional resources" to continue. OK, maybe that's on her either personally or professionally, but it was very hard for me not to see that as I was "too much" for her. Which has been really devastating in its own right -- not just that it was maybe like what I must have felt in my early life. Reenactment, maybe -- but how to move on from that? I couldn't find anything in my state's ethics code that would cover anything, except maybe incompetence, but since I had been in and out therapy for so long and no other therapist had been "competent" for my situation either, it seemed unlikely the Ethics Board would be interested in anything I had to say.

I'm sorry you have had this experience, too -- but I feel it does help some to know that we are not alone. Best wishes to you.

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