My husband and I have been married 6 years we have a toddler. He has been dealing with anxiety and depression for almost 10 years since his dad passed away. The depression got worse when I was pregnant (he did not want a baby and blames me for getting pregnant, although he loves our child now). We had a huge fight today over his spending and he said he wanted a divorce. He blames me for “making” him quit his old job 8 years ago to move to a city where he can’t find a job. He currently works in retail. I make significantly more at and I wouldn’t be able to find a similar job if we went back to his old city. Even if we did, both of us working wouldn’t make as much as I do now. I know he is going through a depressive period right now but he doesn’t want to get help. He basically blames me for most things that have gone wrong with his life and resents me. I resent him for always making me the grown-up and for basically making me feel terrible when I was pregnant when I always thought he would be a supportive partner. Hopefully someone has some insight into what could be going on with him. Is this the depression talking? I want to help him, but I also don’t want to spend my life being blamed for someone’s unhappy life. If he would be happier without me, then we should separate.