Pachyderm, Yes its hard to put the past aside and risk trusting that a relationship today isn't necesarily going to be the same as our past experiences. I am constantly working on this and only today told T that I feel she is going to get rid of me any minute now, to which she always replys, "and why would I do that"? Its with that question that I realise I am stuck in the trauma of the failed relationship, the one where we managed to get through it, but never worked through it, so I'd say as long as you can work through any less them perfect relationships then there is hope for a different ending.