I suspect he might see some contradictions between those words and actions. Words are just words.

He sees what he wants to see. I left men who didn’t want me to leave. They’d interpreted many innocent things I said or did as me not being fully done. I am sure if I did or said things you say or do they’d interpret it that I am just upset but am keeping them close and eventually they can weasel in.

The message is mixed. If somebody left me but did some of the things you do, id think they are just temporarily mad but still need me and are still madly in love with me. You could be nice and on good terms but not send those messages.

I am sure it’s not intentional. And hopefully you set up boundaries eventually, but until then he’ll think it’s not over.