I think it’s perfectly fine to have high standards and high expectations but it has to match what kind of people you befriend and get involved with. If they aren’t high standards people or simply are not right for you as friends or more, then expecting something that they cannot deliver isn’t serving any purpose. If you have high standards in people, then you should go for high standards people.

I think you open up and trust people quickly and only see good in them without getting to know them well or not paying attention to details and sadly they turn out to be jerks quite often. You just didn’t see it.

In addition if you frequently befriend or otherwise entangle yourself with people who are unwell, it’s only understandable they will exhibit “unwell” behaviors. I am not saying you shouldn’t befriend struggling people but you should be prepared for them exhibiting troublesome behaviors.

I think becoming more discerning and choosy and becoming less trusting in a way would save you some headache (both online and in person)