When I first started therapy, I was falling apart and let my kids sit in front of video games all weekend. I limit their screen time and was feeling bad about it. I told T that my kids had been in front of video games all weekend, and he replied "So?". That was HUGE - it gave me permission to not be perfect ,and just let things be sometimes. I'd never given myself that permission before. Silly, but that "so?" really stuck with me.

At my last session, I was talking about being too dependent, and he was reframing it, saying that I'm "attached" and that's good. And then he said "and attachment goes both ways - I'm attached to you as well".