Divine, I understand what you mean ( you always put a nail on the head) but in my case, over the abuse, it’s my temper. I’m a very hard person to deal with.
When I was very young, people used to tell me that I did things in relationships badly, you know...that kind of things that can hurt people but I was so unaware, in the contrary, I would have done something to mend this situation. I’m following a technique a friend of mine taught me to stop any emotional involvement so I can have time to react more appropriately to the situation. I’m working at that moment on this technique.