Hi RJB,

I'm so sorry you are suffering this terrible time right now. My partner had his child taken off him to when he left his ex and has to fight for custody too, I know how draining it can be. There is no reason for a mother to with hold her children from their father, no excuses, and i'm sure the courts will come to agree a solution that works best for you all and most of all for the children's sake.

it sounds like it was a relationship that needed to end though. As much as you still love her, everybody deserves happiness and it doesn't seem like it was a happy home. I feel the best thing to do would be to work on coming to terms with this for your sake (and ultimately the children's, they are only as happy as their saddest parent!). As much as time sucks in this instance, there WILL be a light at the end of the tunnel, and you WILL find happiness and a better life. You will find someone that you would have never had found if all this didn't happen and you will be counting your blessings that it happened. Breakdown of relationships are the worst and they take time to heal, but as painful as it is it doesn't mean your life ends there - it means life is clearing the obstacles to allow for greater things. I have been there with a break up with my child's father, I had no home, no possessions and I was desperately trying to hold my job, jumping between hotels with an 18 month old baby. I am grateful for this experience now because i have a wonderful life that became of it, but if someone would have told me this back then I would have kicked them in the teeth!!

It's really important to take care of yourself right now. Keep fighting for your children, they deserve their dad in their life.