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Old Jan 29, 2021, 07:21 AM
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Originally Posted by AliceKate View Post
In my teens, I had a good and normal online friend for a few months. This was a time where all I had was a computer (not a movable laptop). My phone didn't have internet. I got a boyfriend and I practically moved in with him. The days passed and while I did write him again, he was understandably hurt and his answer short. I wrote him again, but he never answered.

What I mean to say is that real life can get in the way. I still think of him sometimes, espacially about the beautiful poetry he wrote, and I am very sorry I didn't take the time to write him at the beginning of my realitionship. I do think I would act differently now, for as we get older, we get hurt, and that makes it easier to understand the pain you can inflict on others.

I am very sorry this happened to you.
Thank you for this. I do understand when life gets in the way.

With this one online friend I just spoke about, I had already expressed my hurt to her for her lack of responsiveness and I had wanted to drop her from Skype. She was the one who begged me to stay. She improved for a little while, then slipped right back into not being responsive again. I would see that she had been online and had logged in to Skype, but hadn't replied to my messages. So it was hurtful behavior and I just cannot deal with that kind of person. I don't need that kind of co called "friend" in my life.

Friendships ebb and flow. Some people are meant to stay, and other friendships are not meant to be long-term.

Right now in my life, I want to be very picky and choosey about my friendships. I want only quality friendships in my life at this stage.
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