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Originally Posted by MoxieDoxie
I want to update this. As of yesterday he finally said that when I disclosed all my feelings to him he threw walls up because all his training told him these feelings and attachments are wrong and harmful. He started training in IFS and even found a IFS therapist for himself. (I came from an IFS therapist before him and talked about it a lot). Since he started the training he learned that it was his own parts that got triggered and he wants to start to explore my parts that have these feelings for him.
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Very interesting! Thanks for the update. Congrats to you for persisting.
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Originally Posted by Salmon77
Honestly it doesn't sound fair to you to make you his guinea pig.
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I agree, except -- we've seen a bunch of these transference-countertransference messes on this forum, and in many the T is unwilling/unable to try to do anything about their part in it. They just dump the client. Even if they provide a referral it amounts to a dump, which is traumatizing in its own right as well as re-tramatizing.
I'm glad this guy is doing what he can, and maybe his IFS therapist can also act as a supervisor? These T's gotta start somewhere and since it is apparently not being offered in regular training, or at least wasn't, I think it's positive that Moxie's T is at least trying. The other options she's looked into haven't been good, so what to do? I would congratulate this T for trying, too, since what else can he do to really help his client?