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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
Pretty sure my therapist (PhD psychologist) didn't really have training in it, as he hurt me pretty badly with his reaction to something (it involved a transitional object--I wrote about it fairly extensively on here, but it was before your time, LostisLost) early on in my seeing him. But over 3 years later, he seems to get it now. Hopefully I've managed to help his future clients in some way...
Moxie, I'm sorry you had to deal with all that, too. I'm glad he's realized it was his stuff and finally admitted it, but sorry it took so long and hurt you in the process. Have you noticed a change in how he works with you now?
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Yes he is different. He is softer is the way I can subscribe it. I flat out asked him if he was afraid of me. Obviously he said no. Now if he only knew how much I internet stalk him he might change that answer. He still does not get how attached I am to him. I think he does not get it because he can not believe someone is so attached to him. I said I could not believe that as a trauma therapist he never had a client that attached to him. He said it was because that was never on his radar and did not recognize it and you betcha he will be looking out for that from now on. I did want to ask him if he ever have clients just ghost him because that is a sign they were overwhelmed with their feelings for him and could not handle the shame or would leave before being left as that is easier to deal with.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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