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Originally Posted by MoxieDoxie
He still does not get how attached I am to him. I think he does not get it because he can not believe someone is so attached to him.
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Possibly he has an avoidant attachment style himself that he has never bothered to work on in his own therapy. I hope he will do it now but surely it will not be a smooth road for him.
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I said I could not believe that as a trauma therapist he never had a client that attached to him. He said it was because that was never on his radar and did not recognize it and you betcha he will be looking out for that from now on.
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Yeah, I can't believe it either. But I also understand how it happens. In the evidence-based world trauma therapist is someone who as learned one or several protocols for treating PTSD, which is a diagnosis for a single traumatic incident - to so called type I trauma. There are also type II and type III trauma, which are often also called CPTSD and relational trauma and attachment trauma etc. These are not official diagnoses and non of these trauma treatment protocols work well in these cases.
So it can very well happen that there is a "trauma therapist" who only knows about the type I trauma, has been educated in using the protocols centered on exposure and cognitive restructuring and who is completely oblivious of the other types of trauma. Thus, this therapist will happily take on patients with trauma (also complex trauma cases), starts applying their expertise on them and is probably quite puzzled and stuck of why their patients don't improve but rather start behaving rather weirdly. Surreal situatation, but as we can see from the picture, it happens and probably quite a lot.