Giving thought to learning how alcohol affects the brain, it explains a lot of behaviors that a person who doesn't have a problem experiences. The problem with someone that is abusing alcohol is that they tend to act on impulse instead of really thinking about what they say and choose to do. Things that a sober individual would not choose to do, the individual abusing alcohol often does without realizing how their behavior is inappropriate. Often an individual consuming alcohol to maintain will say things they should not say, it can actually be embarrassing for the person who doesn't have a problem.

That is what I noticed about the friend I had that was an alcoholic. She would choose to say things that were very inappropriate and LOST her ability to understand that she can't expect ALL people to listen to her drama issues. And at a certain level of alcohol in her brain there was no way to even help her refrain as that would only make things worse. She would either get loud and make it worse or she would just ignore and continue her behavior.

It tends to be about whatever feels good at whatever level of alcohol she consumed. It was a waste of time to sit and talk to her as I did try often. When she consumed a certain amount anything I had said not to do went right out the window.

I am sharing this because often people that are in relationships with someone who abuses alcohol don't truely realize why a partner or friend or family member seems to respond but then doesn't really change the behavior pattern. It's the way this disease affects the individual that gets confused and it doesn't matter how receptive the individual is, they will continue the behavior because of how the alcohol consumption is affecting them.