From various things my T has done and just general observations he's made about life and relationships, I get the sense my T also has an avoidant attachment style. And mine is anxious/preoccupied, so you can see where those could easily clash and lead to a sort of push-pull dynamic at times.

Unfortunately, don't think my T would be willing to work on his in his own therapy. Last he said when I asked, he got his own therapy as part of requirements for his PhD, then that was it. He's not under supervision (I wish it was a requirement here like in the UK) but does meet in a consulting group a whole 6 times a year (yes, there's sarcasm there!). He did bring a conflict we had early on up in that group, and they seemed to agree with him...but I think, from what he told me, it's partly how he presented the situation and described me to them.


So, Moxie, be glad your T is willing to work on this in therapy! Though of course it would have been better if he'd done it sooner.