I just spoke with my mother about him.

THANK GOD I was SMART enough to NOT agree to pay off all his debt with the first bank loan I took out!!!!!!!!!

That's what he wanted me to do with the money! That loan specifically was taken out to cover him with reduced hours at work and to make up for any loss of income because the bastard works on commission only. SO what does he try and do? He tried to next get me to use the WHOLE of that bank loan, meant for emergency purposes ONLY, to pay off ALL HIS DEBT, which then would have turned into DEBT IN MY NAME!

What a bastard!!!!!!!!!!!

My mother is convinced he married me for my money and my good credit. I think it's a mixture, but I think he saw that he could get something financially out a marriage with me, so he pushed it. So, yeah, while I truly believe he also had true feelings of love towards me, that he in part also used me. He certainly took advantage as best as he could of me in the financial sense.

But thank goodness I was adamant about not using that 1st loan to pay off HIS freaking debt. What an a-hole.