Dear Reveuse Troublee,
That sounds very confusing. I think your thoughts and feelings are very understandable. I wish I knew what I would do if I was in your place, but sadly I can't think of anything. Hopefully others here with more knowledge, experience and insight will see your post and respond to it with something helpful. I am so sorry that I could not be helpful to you but I hope things eventually get sorted out so you can have some peace of mind. The situation you are in sounds so distressing.
Sincerely yours, Yao Wen