yeah, i dunno pink - if cutting is the thing you are there mainly to deal with and they can't even relate to that then maybe being in the group is not helpful if you have to censor yourserlf. maybe you can just stay in contact with the woman.

on the other hand, if the group offers you a sense of community even if you don't fully connect with the others, than maybe it is worth it?

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