No, it doesn't make you a hoe or a hooker because he is your husband.

I am wondering what types of things that you are wanting, in which you have to use this method to get them?

I mean, is it something that your husband should not restrict you from doing such as going to the store or going out with friends?

Is it something outrageous like an expensive piece of jewelry?

You did mention money.

I guess I would be concerned about the following things:

1. Why can't you communicate verbally in order to ask for these things?
2. Why do you want things these so badly that you can't take no for an answer, so you resort to sexual favors?
3. Depending on what the things are that you are asking for, why can't your husband give them do you and/or why do you need to be dependent on him?
4. Why does your husband change his mind once he gets the sexual favor? Why can't he change his mind aside from a sexual situation?

The behavior itself really isn't the important point. Big deal, so you are giving your husband blow jobs. That doesn't make you any of the things you mentioned. I think you need to take a look at what is underneath this behavior. Even what is underneath the motivation for this behavior. Becase we already know that you do in in order to gain something that your husband will dispute-- so try to look even beyond that.