True enough - who really knows who left whom. I have no doubt he will claim that he left me and that I am bat crazy. NO doubt.

I am filing married but separate, I decided. I want NO further contact with him, and filing jointly only just forces us to remain in touch. I told him to go ahead and file separately last night. I don't care if I have to pay OR if he gets some sort of refund I could have split with him. It's worth it to me to not have to see him or speak with him.