The only thing is this is a support group-- not a therapy group-- so the "leader" is really like a member of the group because she has BPD herself. So we don't have any rules such as that. She is very understanding and I guess wants to keep all members safe, but I just don't think that is fair to be censored. If someone talks about drinking alcohol because that is their destructive behavior, it is my decision if I decide, "Oh that sounds great-- I'll try getting drunk now." I would expect that person to stop talking about the drinking just because I heard about it and then tried it.